Why do you want a relationship?

Sitting today and remembering some of my friends saying that they want to be in relationship with someone , they want to have someone who really makes them feel special , they want someone who shares a certain level of intimacy and also the level of significance with them and what else the favorite line of every teenager slipped from their tongue "man, i want a relationship"! .

so my this blog is featuring to unlock the real question that is relationship a need or an exaggerated emotion and i will unlock the real reason which pulls people to fall into one.

So let's start the journey to unlock what drives us to fall into it ?

1. The way in which we are brought up : 

here i would like to bring to light the difference in the time period of dependencies which humans face and what animals are subjected to, i mean we are for atleast 14 years or even more we \are dependent on someone else or more precisely on our parents and we have someone to have our needs primary to them and in some dimensions this long period of dependencies rather induce a trait of what i call "relating" to each other . that's where we actually first get the root of our emotions.

 Now since i told you about relating , the core understanding also comes by understanding some of the needs which we all posses and some basic fears that drive our engine of action. 

 2:Need for significance: All of us want to fell important to someone , we want to be respected , be popular and liked by most of the people around and sometimes this significance takes such a toll that it actually becomes the basic driving force behind our need to relate to someone. 

3:Fear of not being loved : most of us would try new things to show that we are sorry if we did something wrong to our friend and hurt-ed  their sentiments, now what was that driven by , yes it was driven by our basic instinct of fear of loss and sometimes love is actually a pronounced form of this fear.

4:To have more : every one wants more no matter how much you have but you still crave for more love. intimacy , higher social status, higher standards of living and all this actually subtly contributes to the urge to fall into the web of relations and to have our thirst of significance over.

5:Amplify emotions:  the basic purpose of any relationship is to magnify human experience , its nice that you achieve something but how does it like when you do not have anyone to share that with and this need to amplify the emotion is the basic driving force behind all human crave for relationships.

so this is the five points i could jot down after all my reading into this matter and i would be really happy to an open criticism from your side.